The other day I was at the mall and I had my baby boy in my arms. But unfortunately for him I decided to put him in the stroller, because I was having a hard time with a muscle spasm. I explained to him with love (even though he still doesn’t understand it all) that mommy wasn’t feeling good and he had to remain in the stroller for a while.
Meanwhile, he was having the tantrum of his life infront of a cashier and a lady that inadvertently pat my back (while I was still accomodating the baby in the stroller) and told me “it’s forever”. I was so upset I said to her “I know” that and couldn’t look her in the eyes because she left before I was able to.
But I found that comment very disrespectful and inappropriate, since I was trying to teach my one year old with love that he had to do as I said and I never raised my voice nor did anything wrong. She made that comment seem as if I was sick and tired of being a mother. As if I was a clueless mother. I had to smile back at the cashier, and go.
I never intervene when I see a mother correcting her child. That makes her look infront of the kid as if she is the wrong doer. What is your impression?
I have a few tips for people with the desire to empathize with mommys:
1. Smile at her
2. “Say I understand you mama”.
3. If you see her struggling somehow, ask her if she needs help
4. You don’t know what to do? Don’t do anything, despite how uncomfortable the situation is
Do you have any other ideas? Feel free to share them in the comments section! Or just share your story. I can’t wait to read you.